“Tim Kreider’s voice is never anything less than honest, smart, and hilarious; in I Wrote This Book Because I Love You he is even more mordant and empathetic than ever before. What a sad and beautiful book.”
– Lauren Groff, author of Fates and Furies and Arcadia
“Tim Kreider’s wonderfully frank, consistently funny essays reminded me at a time of spectacular doubt that there might still be a few men in America who are both weird and wise, equally friendly to cats and ex-girlfriends, and refreshingly willing to admit to flaws that come entirely free of vindictiveness and cruelty. In an age of widespread buffoonery, it’s a pleasure and a relief to have Kreider restore a little faith.”
– Joshua Ferris, author of Then We Came to The End and The Dinner Party
“Not only smart, but admission-against-interest honest—a winning combination, and rare.”
– Lionel Shriver, author of We Need to Talk About Kevin and The Post-Birthday World
“Tim Kreider is one of my favorite living writers, no exaggeration…His wisdom is counterintuitive and therefore all the wiser; his humor is dark in ways that let light in where it’s needed most. This isn’t a book about one man’s relationship to women as much as it’s a chart of the collision course of human need in all its wrenching, perverse, gorgeous, hilarious forms. It’s his best stuff yet.”
– Meghan Daum, author of The Unspeakable: And Other Subjects of Discussion
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I Wrote This Book Because I Love You: Essays4.41 · Rating details · 112 Ratings · 37 Reviews
New York Times essayist and author of We Learn Nothing, Tim Kreider trains his virtuoso writing and singular power of observation on his (often befuddling) relationships with women.
Psychologists have told him he’s a psychologist. Philosophers have told him he’s a philosopher. Religious groups have invited him to speak. He had a cult following as a cartoonist. But, above alNew York Times essayist and author of We Learn Nothing, Tim Kreider trains his virtuoso writing and singular power of observation on his (often befuddling) relationships with women.
Psychologists have told him he’s a psychologist. Philosophers have told him he’s a philosopher. Religious groups have invited him to speak. He had a cult following as a cartoonist. But, above all else, Tim Kreider is an essayist—one whose deft prose, uncanny observations, dark humor, and emotional vulnerability have earned him deserved comparisons to David Sedaris, Sarah Vowell, and the late David Foster Wallace (who was himself a fan of Kreider’s humor).
In his new collection, I Wrote This Book Because I Love You, he focuses his unique perception and wit on his relationships with women—romantic, platonic, and the murky in-between. He talks about his difficulty finding lasting love, and seeks to understand his commitment issues by tracking down the John Hopkins psychologist who tested him for a groundbreaking study on attachment when he was a toddler. He talks about his valued female friendships, one of which landed him on a circus train bound for Mexico. He talks about his time teaching young women at an upstate New York college, and the profound lessons they wound up teaching him. And in a hugely popular essay that originally appeared in The New York Times, he talks about his nineteen-year-old cat, wondering if it’s the most enduring relationship he’ll ever have.
Each of these pieces is hilarious and profound, and collectively they further cement Kreider’s place among the best essayists working today....more
Hardcover, 224 pages
Published February 6th 2018 by Simon Schuster